God-kind Of Family

While I was preparing an indictment of 'Women Mattaz Part One', I came across a chapter in a book that has the picture of a happy and blessed home. And that is in the third chapter of Colossians; from verse eighteen to twenty-one, verses 22-23 is an additional, to those who have servants working for them, but we are not looking into that, we are only focusing on the 'wife', 'husband' and 'children'.

Colossians 3:18-21 KJV

[18] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. [19] Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. [20] Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. [21] Fathers, provoke not your children to anger , lest they be discouraged.

Biological science had proven to us that mothers have high parental care than any other creature on this earth; this is love. And I believe that's why the Bible didn't say wives, love your husbands, instead it was said vice versa. So, what is God expecting from the woman? Submission; a submissive wife will always win her husband's (Prov. 31:11; 28-30). The same was written to the church at Ephesus, but in a vivider explanation.

Ephesians 5:22-24,33 KJV

[22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. [23] For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. [24] Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. [33] Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

'Reverence' in verse 33 is seen as 'respect' in the NIV. Therefore, to be submissive, is to be respectful. I hope you noticed the phrase 'in everything' in verse 24? To win a husband's, submit IN EVERYTHING.
'Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.' Col. 3:19. That phrase, 'and be not bitter against them.' was expounded in Ephesians 5: 25-29.

Ephesians 5:25-29 KJV

[25] Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; [26] That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, [27] That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. [28] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. [29] For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. 

Just as how Christ presents to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, so it must be in the case of every husband. And just as how a man feed and care for his own body, so it must be in the case also of every husband.
Husbands have two duties to do— love and submission (i.e. respect); Eph. 5:21, 25. But a wife is naturally loving, and so the Bible only told her to submit; Eph. 5:21,22.
Children's duty is obedience (Col. 3:20; Eph. 6:1-3). The book of Colossians has this phrase, 'for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.' and Ephesians has this, 'That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.' Therefore, we can say that anything that we do that pleases the Lord may go well with us and causes Him to prosper us. It can never go well with a child that is disobedient.
The Bible also mention 'honour'. Honour and obedience are different. Honour means to reverence; to respect; to submit. And obedience means to conform to a command or authority. A child may be obedient and not honour them. Let's take an illustration; a child is sent on an errand. Fine! The child conformed to that command, but he murmured, 'this old man will not let me to rest, go and get me this, go and get me that.' This child has obeyed but has not honoured his father. Therefore, the Bible says that when children are obedient and respectful, God is pleased and it may go well with them.
Finally, what should parents do to their children? Provoke them not to anger (Col. 3:21). Why? Lest they be discouraged— you discourage them from honouring you; even if they are still obedient. Ephesians 6:4 adds this, '... but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.' To nurture is to discipline and to admonish is to rebuke or warn.

Proverbs 22:15 KJV

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Hebrews 12:5-9 KJV

[5] And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: [6] For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. [7] If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? [8] But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. [9] Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us , and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?

Discipline should be done with love so also with admonition, lest you provoke and discourage them. My father is a wonderful dad, when I was young and I did something wrong, he would use the rod of correction on me and afterwards, draw me close to himself and admonish (warn) me not to do that again— perfect example. When admonishing a child, don't use negative words on him, lest they be discouraged.

This is the God-kind of family:
Husbands love and submit to your wives.
Wives submit to your husbands in everything.
Children obey and honour your parents.
And parents, discipline and admonish your children.